In times of social media and the toxic environment created around it, it has become tougher to keep a level head; so many people have now lost themselves in keeping up appearances and trying too hard to compare themselves to everybody else. We forget that we are different individuals pursuing different paths. I worry about how easy it has become to fall for facades in social media networks leading to people putting unnecessary pressure on themselves.
I worry about young girls duped into thinking they have to expose themselves and alter their image to achieve a certain level of success, yet no one tells them that they can achieve anything without resorting to extreme measures. Everybody jumps at the slightest opportunity to post themselves leading a lavish lifestyle, in designer clothes and eating the most expensive dishes but what is the use in convincing people that you are whole on the outside when internally, you are incomplete. Some fail to understand the façade involved which is where the endless chain of insecurities is invoked especially from the average user because not only do they aspire to be like what they see but they also put unnecessary pressure on themselves. They forget that life does not afford everyone the same opportunities and that there is no age limit to success.
There is no timeline for any personal achievements! It is in moments like these that I am reminded of the phrase, “Don’t be too hard on yourself, nobody posts their failures”. You need to learn to not take things at face value; you don’t know the corridors what the person had to go through to get to that picture perfect point. If they worked hard to achieve the lifestyle they now have then good for them, it is something we can all admire and aspire to. However that does not mean take shortcuts because you might miss a necessary journey that would have carried you through to where you are supposed to be. Learn to live at your own pace. So, you have big dreams and desire to achieve them all, it is all okay because what matters is that you are doing something to achieve those dreams. Do not let some stranger on Instagram act as a success barometer in your life. Protecting yourself from such unproductive energy takes huge confidence and requires a strong self-esteem so do not be ashamed to work on yourself; read self-help books, get a makeover, whatever you feel is necessary to give you confidence to face the world and make your dreams come true. It is your life, live it by your own rules.
I hope you find the strength to stay true to yourself and may your every dream come true.
A Zimblog awards nominee, development practitioner passionate about life, the empowerment of women and mental illness awareness. She finds purpose and comfort in putting her thoughts into words. She is realistic and hopeful.