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Social Dilemma


I  thought I had social media down. I was convinced that I wasn’t addicted and I could “stop whenever I wanted” ( I know, that’s exactly what addicts say!) Enter this documentary that everyone is recommending on Netflix. I was wrong. I’m a user! They have me right where they want me! Here’s are 3 things that I learned from watching this critically acclaimed documentary:

I care about likes.
We often try to front. ” I have a profile there, but I never post”, “uurgh, I don’t know anything about that platform, hey.” But if I’m honest with myself, I care about getting many likes – on any social media platform. It matters to me that my followers think I’m smart and funny and sexy and… worthy.

I go there when I am lonely or bored.

Social media is definitely my digital pacifier. Sometimes I use it to pass the time or when I feel detached from people and sometimes I snoop, trying to find things I’d rather not talk about here. I pick a digital rabbit hole: Whatsapps statuses or Timelines and I just keep scrolling and scrolling aimlessly. I remember often getting home from work and locking into my phone screen for up to half an hour after barely putting my things down. I’m not really looking at anything or for anything, but I can’t put my phone down and do something else that is engaging and more rewarding.

It’s not a tool

Nobody is trying to make social media less addictive! Do you realise that?! What started off as a means to connect us to old friends and family has now become a means to feed our insecurities, our fears and our need to be accepted. For all of social media’s usefulness, it is not a tool that waits in the corner for us to use. It seeks you out when you’ve been gone too long. It relies on your very addiction for it to keep going. That. Is. scary.

In a nutshell, this documentary really sobered me up and made me take a hard look at myself and what I use social media for. I’d like to to be less dependant on my phone, switch off notifications and put my phone in the other room for a few hours, because for all of social media’s tricks, we are ultimately responsible for what owns us and what does not.

Thank you so much for popping in today. I’ve become increasingly bad at being consistent, I apologise! Bare with me; I will do better. Have an amazing week everyone!

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3 Things I’m going to miss about lockdown

Last week, I got an email from work. We headed back to normal-ish school yesterday and surprisingly, this was bittersweet news. Lockdown was more good than bad for me and there are a number of things I’m going to miss about being confined to my house.

Re-imagining

While lockdown was in many ways a stressful time, it was also exciting. If you didn’t pick up a new skill or learn new ways of doing the same old thing, then you probably don’t feel like you took full advantage of this time. From late mornings during a work week to different kinds of adventures in little corners of the city, I’m going to miss re-imaginging my life and having much more time to unwind. I’m going to miss never needing to leave my space for work or for play and I’m going to miss the creativity this time enforced on us all.

No obligations

Be honest, how many times have you attended a party out of obligation and what you really wanted to do was stay at home and do your own thing? I know I have! Lockdown did away with this for me. In fact, lockdown really did away with many forced relationships whole we all grappled with this new normal.

Self care days.

Don’t let anyone fool you, every day is self care Sunday and lockdown made it so we could have more of these days than normal. Long baths with candles and soft music and a good book became a norm. I woke up for work when the sun is out- during winter. It was such a blessing not to feel tired and sleep deprived. I learned to self soothe because I didn’t have access to my people. My circle grew smaller and I’m grateful for that and I found that I had more time to do things that are important to me.

It’s a whole new world and I see it every day. But we are privileged enough to watch and enjoy how it unfolds! I’m looking forward to everything that is to come. Have a good week, dear readers!

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Intermittent Fasting Vs Meal Plan

I’m fat. OK, that’s over dramatic and untrue. I’m not fat. But the past 100 plus days of Lockdown had my entire life revolving around preparing food and eating it. Each day by lunch time, I knew what was for dinner and the meat would be out in the sun, getting defrosted. The alcohol ban had me stocked up on bottles I helped myself to every day and all of a sudden, out of the clear blue sky, I had a well stocked snack shelf in my kitchen.

It happened slowly, but one day, I put on my previously loose fitting jeans and, to my horror, they fitted like my jeans jeans! I’m sure you’re wondering if I kept at my workouts and that would fix everything, right?! Well, I did! In fact, I never stopped! Working out very quickly became one of the only things that kept me sane in the face of the nationwide shut down and I thought I was doing alright – my jeans told a different story, though. This was the first real proof that getting the kitchen right is an important step to having and maintaining that dream body.

If I’ve learned anything in fitness and life as a whole, it’s that what’s good for the goose is not always good for the gander. You have to find what works for your body and not subscribe only because it has been proven to work on other people. With this in mind, I tried my hand at two forms of dieting and I’m going to share my experiences with both.

Intermittent fasting

What I like about intermittent fasting is the lack of limitations and restrictions. My problem was that I ate all the time and did so out of boredom more than out of hunger. If you tell me I can’t eat something, I may obey for a little while, but soon, out frustration, I will go rouge and eat everything in sight! Fasting helps you to delay that self gratification. I’m allowed to eat, but after a certain amount of time. I tell myself that I can eat whatever I want. While I know that this isn’t actually true, this is really just to keep me going until the fast is over. This did wonders to stop my snacking, especially in the evenings after supper. If you are fasting for weight loss, the main motto is to eat responsibly once the time comes for you to be able to, and that way of thinking minimised my binging when it was time to eat again. I really enjoyed the mindset that intermittent fasting gave me.

Meal Prep

In the spirit of leaving no stone unturned, I tried my hand at following an eating plan; you know, with meal prep and what not. I found this much more difficult. From eating the same thing, every single day (I repeat: Every! Single! Day!), to being in a constant state of hunger even after I’ve just eaten a snack sized plate they call a meal, I was in hell! I still am! Send help! What spawn of Satan came up with this form of torture, guys, honestly?!

I’m sticking to it, though; on most days, anyway and, surprisingly for a number of sensible reasons: I want to see what kind of results I’ll get in the end (when will this hell end?!). This is the painful way, but also the way that will yield the fastest results- so they say; I’m too hungry to argue this. I know that my portions are way bigger than they should be and it’s very clear that sugar and carbs were a gigantic vice in my previous diet. Sometimes it’s like my body is crying for it, it gets so bad. While I do miss being creative with my cooking, I must say I’m much less of an emotional eater as a result of this set daily menu and this has done good things for my wallet too.

Spring is just around the corner for South Africa, and many of us have spent the winter in lockdown sporting sweatpants and trying our hand at baking banana bread, this will pass and those work clothes will have to come out and dusted off for the old normal work day! Please share you views in the comments. What method has worked for you to get rid of the extra lockdown weight? Have you even gained any weight? What is your Avo affirmation when the clothes start to shrink?

Thank you so much for popping in today! Have an awesome week ahead😘

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Level 2 Alert

Our president announced over the weekend that we would be moving to level 2 – Alert- I know: what on earth does alert mean and how is it different to just plain 2? The linguist in me can’t help but think that this is really just word play to stress that we are far from out of danger; many of us lack the sense of urgency that compels us to be more careful and so such labels become necessary. We have been sitting ducks for months on one level while bans were being lifted one day, and then in a wave of panic, reinstated with immediate effect.

Let me first and foremost apologise for my absence- that is, if you have felt my absence at all while I was gone. The thing is, lock down has been a time of a sort of hibernation for me. It has been a time to really use these lists of how tos, to live them and not just to write about them and so I found myself often stuck in living out old lifestyle posts instead of being current. I, for one think this is good. I’d like to be the kind of person who, not only writes what she likes but also lives out what she writes and that requires much less writing and much more living sometimes and so, here am I.

I’ve also found myself feeling more and more sluggish in my attempt to write. There is something liberating about reading a list of 5 better ways of cooking, training, relationshiping, really just living under different circumstances, even more so when you conjure up that list. It’s like you suddenly have a plan for your life and a way forward amidst the chaos. But this lockdown eventually settled on me like a heavy blanket. Eventually, I resigned myself to living it out with no end in sight and as a result, had nothing new to share with you.

Thank goodness, the light has finally appeared. Still far away, but visible and approaching. And that, for me, is good. In a nutshell, the blanket is off and I am back!

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Dream Again

The down side to lock down is having nothing to look forward to. Well, we can look forward to when it’s all over, but we have no way of knowing when that day will come. So at first, as a coping mechanism, I abandoned the idea of ever getting the old normal back.

I finally accepted an invite to go away; just for the day, not far from the city. It felt really good to stare out at open road for the first time in a long long time.

I hope you know that everything is not lost. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.

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My lockdown toolkit

I won’t lie, I never ever thought South Africa’s lockdown would last as long as it has. We are in the 90s now and the spike in cases is yet to come!

I glibly shared the lessons I learned from the lockdown as though the end was near when in fact the time had barely begun; human hubris will be our demise, I tell you! So today, in the spirit of an attitude adjustment, I want to share with you how I am coping with what has become the new normal.

Keep active

Working out has kept me sane during lockdown! It has been my motivation to get up and be productive every day. I was grateful for it at the beginning of lockdown and I am even more grateful for it now! I am very excited for the day they declare gyms open but I’m definitely not behind with my fitness. This tool has been of great value!

Lockdown adventures

I’ve been finding loopholes to staying at home. While we can’t leave the city, I’ve discovered that there are plenty of little havens nearby that I didn’t notice before. Once a week, Windy and I go out in pursuit of a sense of wonder during, it’s so easy to lose the joy of simply enjoying life.

Be mindful.

This year was the perfect time to change churches. While we havent been able to go to a physical church for months now, I have participated more in church and its activities than I would have in the old normal. It has trully been a good time to regroup and to live qith more intension and awareness of what is important to us.

We have no way of knowing how much longer life wil be like this, but I hope you’re finding ways every day to cope and to make the most of it! Don’t let the lockdown get you down. Thank you so much for popping in! It’s always a pleasure to have you here! Have an awesome week

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Through it all ( Hymn of Love)

My birthday is almost here! Bet your bottom dollar that tomorrow! Today, I had this song in my heart. It best describes my gratitude for 35 years of unmerited favour:

Through it all by Hillsong Worship

You are forever in my life

You’ve seen me through the seasons

Cover me in your hand

And lead me in your righteousness

And I look to you

And I’ll wait on you

I’ll sing to you, Lord

A hymn of Love

For your faithfulness to me

And I’m carried in everlasting arms

You never let me go

Through it all