Falling Upward

I’m Back! Did you miss me, mmmmh?! Well, I know one person who has. My colleague who is not a blogger at all has been eagerly awaiting my next post! He says he has read every single one of my posts! All of them, guys! I’m super flattered and encouraged to keep writing! Thank you, dear colleague😊

So you have the dream ( insert all the things you want to accomplish at the end of your life). You have arrived! You are a success! So… like… what happens next?! I’ve often pondered this. Maybe our desire for things is what keeps us striving for more in this life. Once we are satisfied with what we have, we have nothing else to live for, right?! Boy, was I wrong!

Father Richard Rohr talks about having 2 halves of life. They are not chronological and one only comes when you consciously go there.

The First Half – The Container

We all have different things we want to accomplish in life: the job, the house, the car, the spouse and the children. I don’t know who taught us this but we somehow believe that once we have these things, we are finished with life; we have arrived. But all these things, this stuff, is just the container. It is also the way we choose to define who we are: our religion, sexual orientation, our culture. All these things are arguably superficial and it doesn’t mean that the journey of life is over once we have them all. There is more.

The Second half – The Content

This part of life comes when we begin to question why. What is the point of all the things we have and who we are in life? There is what Father Richard refers to as Necessary Suffering. These are the difficult relationships, the hurts, the diffulties and the losses we experience in life. None of these things are avoidable. Yes, they are necessary and through them, we gain maturity. We learn, the hard way, that everything is going to work out, we learn that we are strong and that the good always outweighs the bad. Without necessary suffering, we remain in the meaningless rut that is the container.

In order to reach the second half of life, we need to let the container fall apart and maturity is learning to discern between what is real and what is unreal; what is necessary and what is unnecessary; what lasts and what is fleeting.

I’ve only really just scraped the surface of this way of thinking and I still have much to learn. The question that lingers in me is this: Which half of my life am I living in?

It’s a mouthful I know! Check out the video on Father Richard’s book Falling Upwards. I provided the link earlier. Have an amazing week everyone! Thank you for stopping by🙂

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Control

Hey everyone! It’s good to have you back😊 I had a bit of drama yesterday but I’m begining to bounce back a little bit, I’ll tell you all about it in a minute!

I finally finished this gem in the wee hours of this morning! If you haven’t yet, you should really get your hands on this beauty! I’m definitely planning to read it again!

Back to my drama! The past few weeks have been very very strange. I haven’t been sleeping very well. I go to bed at a decent hour and without the disturbing noise of the TV. But without fail, every morning, around 4am, I’m up. Wide awake. I’ve finally resorted to reading and catching up on marking until I fall back asleep. On other nights, I spend the time in prayer and meditation; there is so much to pray about, guys!

I’ve also been putting my body through a lot of strain in the gym. My shins have been hurting and so have my knees from all the extra work I’ve been putting in. Everyone around me has been telling me to take it easy, rest and pick it back up – I haven’t listened and yesterday, I caught a stomach bug! Well, it wasn’t that bad, but my plan to go for a run in the morning and gym later on in the day as well as put in some marking in between was shot to hell! My body caved and demanded the rest I was refusing it.

Even as I proofread this, I feel mildy overwhelmed! I try to do too much and I’m not sure what I’m trying to prove, but my lesson here is very clear: I need to give up control: over my body, my work, the people in my life, everything! I started this year with the intention to enjoy my life the way it is and it’s time to go with the flow, listen to my body and my mind and just relax a little bit.

So share with me! What is your life demanding of you right now? I hope you are listening closely! It’s always a pleasure to have you here. Don’t worry, Sunday will be here before you know it 😘

Nostalgia

Happy Sunday everybody!

It was a scorcher of a day on my side of the world! I hope you’ve a had a great weekend and looking forward to an even better week🙂

I spent my week up to my ears in marking – the joys of being a teacher! Something I’ve always enjoyed about English language papers, even as a high school student myself, was how thought provoking the texts always are and as I marked and read some of the answers the students gave, I was given much to think about.

This particular text was about nostalgia and how human beings have the habit of holding on to a belief that life was simpler and better in the past. We’ve all been there. We go back to our home towns and see how everything has changed. We see how young people behave and wonder what barn they were raised in that made them so disrespectful and if you are South African, you look back to when the petrol price was lower and you could afford more things than you can now! We all look back and wish we could go back!

Alas, we can’t go back to the good ole days. They were simpler and sometimes better, but you know what? Right now is simpler and in some respects, better too. We have to learn to take the bad with the good and know that in all situations, there is some good too.

Thank you for dropping by! May you have an awesome week! See you on Wednesday😘

Diamond

Happy Humpday, Dear Readers!

It’s always good to have you here. I hope you have had a good week so far!

November is just flying by and soon it will be 31 days of Saturdays: December! I cannot wait for sun and family and mommy food and endless days! Until that glorious time, yours truly is up to her ears in work so I’m going to keep today’s post short😉

I heard a beautiful saying yesterday and thought I should encourage everybody today:

No matter what flaws you believe you have, remember that therein lies your beauty. Your flaws enhance you and make you all the more dazzling! You are worth knowing and worth having in this world so keep going!!

Thank you for dropping by! Please share any encouraging quotes you have heard this week. I would love to hear from you! I’m sorry I couldn’t stay longer but I call my posts short and sweet for a reason😉 have an awesome week! We’ll talk again on Sunday😘

Love is…

Happy Sunday! I hope your weekend was relaxed and filled with all your favourite things😊

I think the world needs a big hug; love, support, a word of encouragement. Today, I feel like sprinkling some love to warm the cockles of the heart. So I wrote some beautiful words…

“Wait… listen”, he stopped everything in that moment and cupped her face, compelling her to look into his eyes. “I am in love with you. I… am in love with you.”

She smiled stupidly. She couldn’t contain it. “I love you too and I’m not going anywhere”,she said, in between giggles.

It was that simple. He loved her. And she loved him in return. And neither of them would let the other go.

I hope your day is filled with pure unbridled love for no better reason than that you deserve it! Thank you for popping in! Have a beautiful week! I will see you on Wednesday😘

Forward

Happy Sunday erbody!

How’s the weather in your corner of the world? It’s been raining in Joburg since last night. It’s the perfect weather for staying cooped up in bed with a good book, a stew on the stove while in the arms of a bearded Nubian King! Wow! That escelated so quickly😂

Today I’d like to share what vaguely resembles poetry, but prefer calling prose… I’ve learned this week that moving on and getting over is dependant on me and not always on outside factors. I tend to play victim a great deal of the time to excuse my own holding on…

Anyway! Here you go! Enjoy the read!

So we’ve been sitting here.

Hunched over this mess,

throwing blame back and forth as though in a tennis match.

I’m tired.

Of sitting.

Of wallowing.

Of spewing accusations at you and wiping upthrown bile from my own face.

I’m moving forward.

You’re welcome to move with me.

Or you can stay behind and wallow on your own.

As always, I appreciating your dropping by for my posts! Your support means the world to me! Have a beautiful week! I’ll see you on Wednesday😘

Body Love

Hey Everyone!

Is it just me or did Wednesday come way too quickly? Sunday was just the other day!

Anyway, so in South Africa, it is Women’s Month and Marie Claire is doing a nude issue to get women talking about loving their bodies as they are!

Now, you know by now that if there is a hashtag I like on Twitter, I will definately share it with you🙂 check out the most recent one here

Well, this one is #DearBody and women are using this hashtag to write love letters to their bodies!

I love this idea because we spend too much time criticising our bodies, putting them through hunger and too much working out all so we can be whatever the media has decided is sexy. I find it demoralising and stressful!

Anyway! Here is my love letter to my body!

#DearBody

I’m sorry for all the times I called you fat or ugly. You don’t deserve such names. You are strong and you have been good to me and I appreciate that

If you want to see what other women are saying about their own bodies, check out my Twitter Moment👇 , search the hashtag #DearBody or just follow me there in Twitterville!

Have a beautiful day and thanks for popping in!