Grand Gestures

Happy Sunday everyone! This past week has been very long and difficult!

Valentine’s day is a tough day for most single people. In an attempt to numb the pain, we act as though the day doesn’t matter or it’s silly, commercial or superficial. But deep down I think most of us yearn to be loved genuinely and we yearn for it to be shouted from rose petaled rooftops!

In the absence of these gestures, I decided many years ago to find my own ways of enjoying the day of love. I may not have my romantic love yet, but I am loved and appreciated by many people in my life!

So my day was filled with chocolate and love notes and even a bunch of flowers delivered to my work! It was an all-around good day!

And so I leave you with this thought: Love comes in all forms and all those forms are important. Embrace it and enjoy it, my dear readers!

Thank you so much for visiting with me today! You are loved and appreciated, remember that! Have an awesome week😘

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Blessings in Disguise

Hello everybody!

I hope you have had a good week so far! Thank you for popping by today.

I’m experiencing a loss at the moment so it has been a bit rough. I am relieved that the worst of it is over though, so I know that it will only get better moving forward.

I got a bit of a mouthful from my friends about the way I choose to deal with it. I don’t like being a burden to people nor do I like whining about the same thing over and over. I also often feel like my own struggles are not nearly as big as other people’s struggles and so I bottle everything up inside and try to cope on my own.

So keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flows the spring of life – Proverbs 4:23

Never take issues of the heart lightly. A blitz of the heart impacts the rest of your life so if your heart breaks, it poisons everything else in your life. No heartbreak is too trivial or insignificant when it affects your heart. No problem is too small. It all matters if it matters to you! And that is why it is so important to guard your heart! This is a lesson for me.

Be prepared, whether the time is favourable or not – 2 Tim 4:2

While it’s difficult to stay prepared all the time, it is important to stay equipped with what you need in order to deal with whatever may come whenever it comes. The first blow will knock you off your feet but always bear in mind that you are strong enough to pick yourself back up again. For now, that is as prepared as I can be for what life has in store for me.

Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout, is a beautiful woman without discretion – Proverbs 11:22

This one speaks for itself. I can be worth a million bucks but if I am not wise in the decisions I make, that beauty is wasted. I think I’ve wasted my value enough for a lifetime and I want to move forward making much better decisions for myself in the future!

Despite the obstacles we come across, remember that the future can be better than the past. I’m looking forward to a much stronger and beautiful to me!

Thank you so much for visiting! Have a beautiful week ahead, everyone and try to see the blessings life shows you even in the trying times😊

Obsessed

Hey erbody! It’s Sunday! One of my favourite days, partly because I get to catch up with you guys! I hope you had a fantastic weekend!

Today, I wanted to tell you about my new dress, but I’m going to save it for Wednesday. I have something else in mind for today and it has been bothering me for a long time and I neeeeed to get it off my chest!

So, I’ve been working out for a few years now. And I’ve watched my body plateau over the last few months. So I’ve been killing myself to get back on track. But the more I tried, the more I backslid. It’s been rough!

I developed this obsession with my body. But in pursual of that body, it lead to negative thoughts about my body as it is. And that’s where I almost spiraled. I spent the last few months in a great deal of frustration. Trying to control my diet and how my body was sculpted. This resulted in binge eating and skipping gym sometimes.

I started to hate what my body looked like. That’s when I realised I was in trouble. I needed to take a step back and realise that I wasn’t being good to myself.

I hope that you never hate your body. I hope you love yourself more than others. Because trying to lose weight should never lead you to dislike yourself now.

I hope you were encouraged by that. I Hope you realise how worthy you are!

Thank you for popping in! Have a great week😘

New

Happy Sunday, dear readers! I cannot believe it is the last Sunday of the year! Time trully flies whether you’re having fun or not!

So the new year calls us to start afresh, to change our bad habits and ultimately change ourselves, right? Every year, I resolve something new. Just last year, I resolved to enjoy my life and find contentment the way it was. As it goes with all our resolutions, this only lasted a few months before I fell off the wagon.

My experience this year taught me one thing: we set goals for our lives but we do not equip ourselves to cope with all the things we aim for and we certainly don’t equip ourselves for tools to deal with the inevitable curve balls that life will inevitably throw at us.

And so this year, what I am praying for is strength and grace for the year. The stuff will come -or not- and my endurance is important to get through the year in more or less one piece!

Falling Upward

I’m Back! Did you miss me, mmmmh?! Well, I know one person who has. My colleague who is not a blogger at all has been eagerly awaiting my next post! He says he has read every single one of my posts! All of them, guys! I’m super flattered and encouraged to keep writing! Thank you, dear colleague😊

So you have the dream ( insert all the things you want to accomplish at the end of your life). You have arrived! You are a success! So… like… what happens next?! I’ve often pondered this. Maybe our desire for things is what keeps us striving for more in this life. Once we are satisfied with what we have, we have nothing else to live for, right?! Boy, was I wrong!

Father Richard Rohr talks about having 2 halves of life. They are not chronological and one only comes when you consciously go there.

The First Half – The Container

We all have different things we want to accomplish in life: the job, the house, the car, the spouse and the children. I don’t know who taught us this but we somehow believe that once we have these things, we are finished with life; we have arrived. But all these things, this stuff, is just the container. It is also the way we choose to define who we are: our religion, sexual orientation, our culture. All these things are arguably superficial and it doesn’t mean that the journey of life is over once we have them all. There is more.

The Second half – The Content

This part of life comes when we begin to question why. What is the point of all the things we have and who we are in life? There is what Father Richard refers to as Necessary Suffering. These are the difficult relationships, the hurts, the diffulties and the losses we experience in life. None of these things are avoidable. Yes, they are necessary and through them, we gain maturity. We learn, the hard way, that everything is going to work out, we learn that we are strong and that the good always outweighs the bad. Without necessary suffering, we remain in the meaningless rut that is the container.

In order to reach the second half of life, we need to let the container fall apart and maturity is learning to discern between what is real and what is unreal; what is necessary and what is unnecessary; what lasts and what is fleeting.

I’ve only really just scraped the surface of this way of thinking and I still have much to learn. The question that lingers in me is this: Which half of my life am I living in?

It’s a mouthful I know! Check out the video on Father Richard’s book Falling Upwards. I provided the link earlier. Have an amazing week everyone! Thank you for stopping by🙂

Control

Hey everyone! It’s good to have you back😊 I had a bit of drama yesterday but I’m begining to bounce back a little bit, I’ll tell you all about it in a minute!

I finally finished this gem in the wee hours of this morning! If you haven’t yet, you should really get your hands on this beauty! I’m definitely planning to read it again!

Back to my drama! The past few weeks have been very very strange. I haven’t been sleeping very well. I go to bed at a decent hour and without the disturbing noise of the TV. But without fail, every morning, around 4am, I’m up. Wide awake. I’ve finally resorted to reading and catching up on marking until I fall back asleep. On other nights, I spend the time in prayer and meditation; there is so much to pray about, guys!

I’ve also been putting my body through a lot of strain in the gym. My shins have been hurting and so have my knees from all the extra work I’ve been putting in. Everyone around me has been telling me to take it easy, rest and pick it back up – I haven’t listened and yesterday, I caught a stomach bug! Well, it wasn’t that bad, but my plan to go for a run in the morning and gym later on in the day as well as put in some marking in between was shot to hell! My body caved and demanded the rest I was refusing it.

Even as I proofread this, I feel mildy overwhelmed! I try to do too much and I’m not sure what I’m trying to prove, but my lesson here is very clear: I need to give up control: over my body, my work, the people in my life, everything! I started this year with the intention to enjoy my life the way it is and it’s time to go with the flow, listen to my body and my mind and just relax a little bit.

So share with me! What is your life demanding of you right now? I hope you are listening closely! It’s always a pleasure to have you here. Don’t worry, Sunday will be here before you know it 😘

Nostalgia

Happy Sunday everybody!

It was a scorcher of a day on my side of the world! I hope you’ve a had a great weekend and looking forward to an even better week🙂

I spent my week up to my ears in marking – the joys of being a teacher! Something I’ve always enjoyed about English language papers, even as a high school student myself, was how thought provoking the texts always are and as I marked and read some of the answers the students gave, I was given much to think about.

This particular text was about nostalgia and how human beings have the habit of holding on to a belief that life was simpler and better in the past. We’ve all been there. We go back to our home towns and see how everything has changed. We see how young people behave and wonder what barn they were raised in that made them so disrespectful and if you are South African, you look back to when the petrol price was lower and you could afford more things than you can now! We all look back and wish we could go back!

Alas, we can’t go back to the good ole days. They were simpler and sometimes better, but you know what? Right now is simpler and in some respects, better too. We have to learn to take the bad with the good and know that in all situations, there is some good too.

Thank you for dropping by! May you have an awesome week! See you on Wednesday😘