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Happy Sunday, erbody!

In case you were wondering how my flower pot turned out from my visit to The Color Cafe, here you have it!

I don’t have much to share today except for these beautiful words. Remember to stay present in the moment:

Thanks for popping in! Have a beautiful week๐Ÿ˜˜

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34 Lessons in 34 Years – Part 3

Happy Saturday, dear readers!

We’ve hit the halfway mark for this series which means my birthday is 3 weeks away! I’m a Gemini and every year without fail, I get excited for the day of my birth! I think it’s a Gemini thing because I’ve been watching a few of my fellow Geminis count down to their big days! We always expect something so exciting even though often nothing really riveting ends up happening! Maybe one day! Anyway, the 34 lessons continue! Enjoy!


Accept the good

There are so many heartbreaking things happening in the world, in big ways, and in small ways. Someone out there is crying over a man who has broken her heart while another, in the same world, is grieving the loss of a loved one. It is said that the bad that we experience help us to enjoy the good that comes before, during and after the bad. I’ve learned, especially over the past year, to see and accept the goodness in every bad situation. An ended relationship could open you up to a better one in the future or maybe you will be happiest without that person. A loss of a loved one could be the end of their suffering. It is always good in every bad situation. You may need to search extra hard for that reason sometimes, but believe me, there is always something good!

Sleep is important

Remember back when we could go out until 3 am and be up for classes at 7 am? I miss those days, but they are gone! In order for me to be fully functional at work during the week, I’ve had to put extra emphasis on the amount of sleep I get every night! Most of the self-help tips I look for lately are on how to sleep better! I am a much less grumpy person during the day if I am well rested!

Surround yourself with people who love you

I spent a lot of my 20s trying to please people and convincing myself that the encounters I had were all meaningful. Sometimes you will meet people one time, connect with them and never see them again. Sometimes people will be in your life for an extended period of time before you float away from each other. It happens. People come and go and the only thing you can do is let them and hope that the ones who truly treasure you and are truly meant for you will stay just a little bit longer…

Piece of mind trumps everything

My mom says she left my dad over 30 years ago for her own peace of mind and I never understood it until recently. It doesn’t matter what you think your life lacks. To be honest, I won’t die without a life partner or more money in my bank account, but the absence of peace has taken away the joy of the very breath that goes in and comes out of my lungs! And so that is what I strive for now. I try to take away everything in my life that hinders that peace and ability to, at the very least, function from day to day.

It’s OK to say no

I’ve spent a great deal of my life being agreeable, and more often than not, I end up regretting my decision afterward or being hurt in the process of pleasing others. I literally feel guilty the minute I say no to an offer or request and want to make it right by explaining it. No more. There is nothing wrong with putting your needs first sometimes.


Stay in your lane

I can remember the saddest days of my life being those days when I compared myself to other people. I catch myself wondering when my wedding day will be as I watch my friend’s exchange vows, I wonder how my wealthier friends get their finances right, sometimes I wish I was like my colleague who loves being single and while she would like to have a partner, she is perfectly happy on her own. If only I could be like them: happy and content! But I can be so, as long as I focus on my own life and try not to mimic those around me so much! I want to see my own simple life as beautiful too!

Well that’s all from me! Have an awesome weekend! Thanks for popping in๐Ÿ˜˜

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What’s in a Name?

Happy Sunday erbody! I hope you’re ready to the week ahead!

While Juliet really only said this to justify being with her enemy, from an African perspective, your name says a great deal about who you.

One of my students who is in her first year in university has started her own blog! Check out her blog Temwanii’s Space. This particular post got me thinking about names.

I believe that our names, especially African names, tell a story about how we came about and speaks into the hopes our parents have for our futures.

My name is Noloyiso. It is Xhosa and it means Victorious. My parents already had 2 sons and wanted to have a girl and I waltzed in! I find it interesting how people’s names suit their personality. It’s like their names are destined for them. I myself try to live a life that is victorious, well, the parts of my life I have some control over.

So what does your name mean and what’s the story behind it? Do you think you live up to your name, or do you wish you had another name? I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you so much for popping in! I hope you have an awesome week ahead! The netball season is upon me so this week is going to be somewhat crazy for me! Wish me and my team luck!

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Reader Appreciation

Happy Wednesday, erbody and to my South African readers, I hope you voted today! It’s the one day where we have a say in what happens in our country!

Sometimes, when I write, I feel like no one is reading, relating or engaging with my content, but recently I’ve been receiving unsolicited appreciation for the content. I’m so grateful for the comments, likes and even those of you that read and appreciate what I have been doing silently. I see you and appreciate you too!

I’d like to take today to express my gratitude for being such avid readers of my blog! I’ve really appreciated the feedback I have been receiving recently.

So if I am talking about you, this๐Ÿ‘‡ certificate belongs to you! Thank you for all the love and welcome to you if you are new!

Thank you for popping in! I have a couple of surprises coming this week so you will be seeing a lot of me! Have a beautiful week๐Ÿ˜˜

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3 things I liked about the Wedding

Happy Sunday everyone

I hope you are having a good day!

Part of adulting means attending weddings! We get to witness all those fairytales we read about and hope for for ourselves! So I attended one such wedding yesterday and love it! Here are 3 things I liked about it!

Keep it simple

The older we get the more we realise that such fairytales come at a huge expense and it is more about the life you make together than about the wedding day. That’s why I loved how simple this couple kept everything. From the meal right down to the decor it was beautiful and elegant and so simple!

Short and sweet

We really only attend weddings to witness our loved ones make vows to each other. And the service was just that! She walked down the isle and the first thing was to exchange vows and marry. The speeches and sermon that followed were short and to the point! We very quickly moved on to celebrate!


In all the simplicity we still did not lose sight if this beautiful couple and the vow they were making to each other. I will look back on this day and remember how beautiful everything was on this day.

Well there you have it! Thank you for popping in! Have a beautiful week ahead๐Ÿ˜˜

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34 Lessons I Learned in 34 Years – Part 1

Hey, everyone! As promised, I bring you the first of six installments of The Birthday Series!

Life will often teach you lessons that you either grew up believing or lessons you we taught as a child. Today is just 6 lessons that turned my belief system upside down:

Stay in your lane

This is becoming more and more important the older I get. When we were younger, we compared our lives with other kids’ lives. This has escalated as we have grown older. For me, staying in my lane involves seeing the good (and sometimes the bad) in my own life and accepting it. There are plenty of people out there who have what I wish they had and they are miserable with it! Staying in your lane requires you to keep your own pace. You will get there eventually.The tortoise got to the finish line before the hare after all.

God goes before you

God, or whatever higher power you may believe in, reveals Himself in different ways. He shows you that he has your back through different mediums, be it people or events. For me, I’ve seen God’s hand in the way aspects of my life have just fallen into place as though someone else arranged them for me long before I arrived. I usually know at that moment, without a shadow of a doubt that this was meant for me!

Some stones should be left unturned

Sometimes being restricted as a teenager makes us rebellious when we are older. As soon as we smell independance, we want to try everything! Even things that are not good for us, just for the experience. I can think of a number of things I wish I had never tried for the sake of the experience because they were to my detriment . It’s really ok to live without having experienced certain things. You are really better for it!

Women are the stronger sex

I was raised by an extremely strong woman who gave me everything I needed. Looking back on my life, it is mere luxuries that I lived without. But this is not really where I saw the true strength of a woman. I grew up believing that I would marry and my life would be better for it. My husband would be a man of God who was financially savvy, he would save me we would live a comfortable life with me always acting out my gratitude for being chosen! It was really me who would be lucky to have him! In my observations of relationships as an adult, though, I have seen that women actually carry the emotional strength and cunningness needed to thrive in this world. A family with a strong wife and mother is a thriving family because she truly carries everyone and herself. Men who understand this choose good women and are better for it.

Just be yourself

There are billions of people in the world, guys! It is not possible that absolutely no one in this world will not see goodness in you! It’s so much better and easier to find people who appreciate you when you are just being yourself. You do not work for their affection, you do not fight in order to keep them, they just stay!

Forget everyone else and do what makes you happy

I spent a great deal of my life pleasing everyone around me, doing the right thing and often being miserable for it while I watched other kids carry on as they pleased and being happy and getting what they wanted! No matter what your choices are in life, they impact you the most. Never put yourself in difficult situations for the comfort of other people!

I hope you’ve enjoyed these pearls of wisdom and, of course, some snaps of a younger me! As you can see, I haven’t changed much since my 20s!

Thank you for popping in! Have a good day ๐Ÿ˜˜

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The Birthday Series

Happy Wednesday, dear readers!

I had an opitomy, guys! Well, I actually read a cool post by Eunice Tossy who recently turned 24 – sigh, I used to be 24! – she shared 24 things she has learned in her 24 years of life. I thought this was a great thing to think about for myself, even though I am turning many years older than 24๐Ÿ˜‚

And so, it is with great excitement that I bring to you my Birthday Series! You see, I will be turning 34 in 6 Saturdays and I thought it would be cool to share with you my 34 things I have learned in 34 years!

What should you be expecting? Well, I’m glad you asked! For the next 6 Saturdays, you will be showered with many pictures of a younger,rounder, greasy-haired Nubian Queen and all the wonderful, painful, exciting things life has taught her over the past 34 years! It is going to be funny and serious and maybe even a little weird, but you will love it! Also, it’ll be a great build up to my Birthday, don’t you think?!

So join me starting this Saturday as I share bitesizes of my life lessons so far in my journey so far! Im really looking forward to it!

Thank you so much for popping in today! It’s always a pleasure to have you๐Ÿ˜˜