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34 things I Learned in 34 Years – Part 6

Hey everyone! Happy Saturday!

It’s my birthday! It’s finally here! Thank you so much for staying on this 6-week journey with me! It’s been great to be able to share what I’ve learned in my life so far and I look forward to what lies ahead! Here are the last few pearls to end off this amazing series!

Don’t think about it. Jump in and get it done!

I have a tendency of putting off the things I don’t feel like doing. The more I put them off, the bigger and more difficult they seem and the more I put them off! The trick is to start without thinking about it. I’ve been able to get things done much faster this way

It’s going to work out

I’m surprised at the difficulties I’ve survived. In the moment, it feels like I will never come out of the abyss, but I soon find that things work out. At worst, you learn to smile again and at best, you get exactly what you wanted! Either way, it works out for the best!

Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same

Doing the right thing is never easy, and nobody tells you that it seldom feels good either. But it is still the right thing to do and in the long run, you will be better for it.

You’re stronger than you think

Don’t ever underestimate yourself! You are strong and capable. Don’t look at that obstacle and think that you can’t overcome it; you really can conquer! You’ve got this!

Life is fun

Learn to put the crappy things aside once in a while and enjoy what life has to offer. There’s a lot of bad things in the world, but an equal amount of good as well! Focus on that! Order a gigantic pizza and eat it all if that’s your kind of thing! Kick off your pants and dance your butt off! It doesn’t have to be anything big. That one little thing can do wonders to lift your spirits!

Well, I hope you enjoyed this series as much as I have! I may not be around on Saturdays until the next series I cook up, but you can still catch me on Sundays and Wednesdays for all my trivia!

I’m off to play with my friends! I’ll chat to you tomorrow! Thanks for popping in😘

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Sleep Sounds

Happy Sunday my Friendlies! I’ve had such a hectic weekend. I’m gonna need a weekend of doing nothing very soon!If you struggle to sleep like I sometimes do, then you’re gonna love what I’m sharing today!On nights when sleep alludes me, I find the Sleep Sound app so helpful! You can choose soothing sounds that help you to fall asleep and even add other sounds to it to enhance the experience.I generally just need something to lull me to sleep and not wake me up again during the night so I don’t need the Sleep Sounds to go for long. I usually set it for an hour although I really only need about 10 minutes before I’m in dreamland. I’d definitely recommend this app. Adulting is difficult enough, no one needs to go through it sleep deprived too so give it a try!Please share with us what you do to help you sleep better at night. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you so much for popping in! Have an awesome week😘

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Game of Thrones: The Good the Bad and the Ugly

Happy Wednesday erbody!

It’s been a good week for me! I’ve been back at the gym after slacking a lot and I’m also feeling more focused than I’ve been in a while at work! In short, I feel more like myself this week and I’m so glad😊

If you didn’t know this about me, then let me lay out the cards: I love watching series! If there’s anything I’m grateful for about this new age of streaming and instant gratification, it’s being able to binge watch my favourite series! Today, I wanna talk about some of the things I liked and disliked about Game of Thrones seeing as everyone is talking (actually mostly complaining) about the final season.

Daenerys’  Downward Spiral

Danny was definitely one of my favourite characters to watch for since season one! Her strength and her unwavering faith in herself was an incredible sight to see. Believing in herself truly paid off too, because she fulfilled what she said about herself every time! Talk about speaking things into existence! It truly broke my heart to watch her spin out of control so quickly in the final season. She deserved so much more after the work she put in over the years! But this is how I choose to remember her though:

Jamie is Trash!

Guys, Jamie will go down in my history books as the player who deflowered a woman who loved him against her better judgement for years! This man chose his sister over her, time and time again. He eventually gives the warrior woman a second look only to leave her the very next day to die with – wait for it- his sister! Trash trash trash!

Brienne and Tormund Forever!

For no other reason than the hopeless romantic in me, It really bothered me that Tormund spent all that time gawking at Brienne to no avail! Brienne did completely ignored a perfectly beautiful red man who couldn’t hide how in awe he was of her and kept her eyes fixed on this other trash guy! Love is truly blind deaf and dumb, you know! She should have just cuffed him instead of saving herself for that silly Jamie! I do hope Tormund finds happiness, though!

Nothing Lasts

This may be because I like to say goodbye quickly and painlessly without dragging things out (aargh!!) but I was mildly annoyed about the majority’s reaction to the how everything was tied up at the end of GOT. I understand that we had been following this epic drama for 7 seasons and waited 2 years for the final season, but I’ve also been bidding farewell to The Big Bang Theory which ended last Thursday and I realised that elaborating certain storylines at the end of the show really just drags out the farewell. Yes, we are sad to say goodbye but everything must come to an end and most times we are left confused and without the answers we expected or wanted. That’s how the cookie crumbles. Some of the stories that people say were left unexplained would have dragged out the goodbye, to be honest, and it was probably best to leave us hanging!

Climax or Nah?

I don’t know if this is a good, bad or ugly thing, but this season really peaked in episode 3! Those white walkers seemed impossible to defeat and Aryria, the most unlikely hero did it! I was ready to hand her that iron throne myself at the end of that episode! For me, the season could have ended right there!

The Starks were Avenged

I don’t know why everyone is so angry about Brandon getting the throne! Remember what happened to Ned? His wife? His eldest son? No matter how you slice it, the Starks are avenged in the end! This boy’s move along with the north declaring independence hands down fixes everything this family went through! There’s your happy ending! And you all have to admit: no one saw Brandon being the king coming. That was a huge surprise!

I don’t know about you, but I don’t regret a single episode of this last season. Sure, it wasn’t always perfect and I desperately want to know where the dragon carried Dany to after her death, but we kept watching right until the end, didn’t we?! They really had us!

Thank you so much for sticking this post out! I know I went on for longer than usual today, but believe me, I cut it short! Have an awesome week and I’ll sneak into your inbox again soon😘

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34 Lessons in 34 Years – Part 3

Happy Saturday, dear readers!

We’ve hit the halfway mark for this series which means my birthday is 3 weeks away! I’m a Gemini and every year without fail, I get excited for the day of my birth! I think it’s a Gemini thing because I’ve been watching a few of my fellow Geminis count down to their big days! We always expect something so exciting even though often nothing really riveting ends up happening! Maybe one day! Anyway, the 34 lessons continue! Enjoy!


Accept the good

There are so many heartbreaking things happening in the world, in big ways, and in small ways. Someone out there is crying over a man who has broken her heart while another, in the same world, is grieving the loss of a loved one. It is said that the bad that we experience help us to enjoy the good that comes before, during and after the bad. I’ve learned, especially over the past year, to see and accept the goodness in every bad situation. An ended relationship could open you up to a better one in the future or maybe you will be happiest without that person. A loss of a loved one could be the end of their suffering. It is always good in every bad situation. You may need to search extra hard for that reason sometimes, but believe me, there is always something good!

Sleep is important

Remember back when we could go out until 3 am and be up for classes at 7 am? I miss those days, but they are gone! In order for me to be fully functional at work during the week, I’ve had to put extra emphasis on the amount of sleep I get every night! Most of the self-help tips I look for lately are on how to sleep better! I am a much less grumpy person during the day if I am well rested!

Surround yourself with people who love you

I spent a lot of my 20s trying to please people and convincing myself that the encounters I had were all meaningful. Sometimes you will meet people one time, connect with them and never see them again. Sometimes people will be in your life for an extended period of time before you float away from each other. It happens. People come and go and the only thing you can do is let them and hope that the ones who truly treasure you and are truly meant for you will stay just a little bit longer…

Piece of mind trumps everything

My mom says she left my dad over 30 years ago for her own peace of mind and I never understood it until recently. It doesn’t matter what you think your life lacks. To be honest, I won’t die without a life partner or more money in my bank account, but the absence of peace has taken away the joy of the very breath that goes in and comes out of my lungs! And so that is what I strive for now. I try to take away everything in my life that hinders that peace and ability to, at the very least, function from day to day.

It’s OK to say no

I’ve spent a great deal of my life being agreeable, and more often than not, I end up regretting my decision afterward or being hurt in the process of pleasing others. I literally feel guilty the minute I say no to an offer or request and want to make it right by explaining it. No more. There is nothing wrong with putting your needs first sometimes.


Stay in your lane

I can remember the saddest days of my life being those days when I compared myself to other people. I catch myself wondering when my wedding day will be as I watch my friend’s exchange vows, I wonder how my wealthier friends get their finances right, sometimes I wish I was like my colleague who loves being single and while she would like to have a partner, she is perfectly happy on her own. If only I could be like them: happy and content! But I can be so, as long as I focus on my own life and try not to mimic those around me so much! I want to see my own simple life as beautiful too!

Well that’s all from me! Have an awesome weekend! Thanks for popping in😘

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What’s in a Name?

Happy Sunday erbody! I hope you’re ready to the week ahead!

While Juliet really only said this to justify being with her enemy, from an African perspective, your name says a great deal about who you.

One of my students who is in her first year in university has started her own blog! Check out her blog Temwanii’s Space. This particular post got me thinking about names.

I believe that our names, especially African names, tell a story about how we came about and speaks into the hopes our parents have for our futures.

My name is Noloyiso. It is Xhosa and it means Victorious. My parents already had 2 sons and wanted to have a girl and I waltzed in! I find it interesting how people’s names suit their personality. It’s like their names are destined for them. I myself try to live a life that is victorious, well, the parts of my life I have some control over.

So what does your name mean and what’s the story behind it? Do you think you live up to your name, or do you wish you had another name? I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you so much for popping in! I hope you have an awesome week ahead! The netball season is upon me so this week is going to be somewhat crazy for me! Wish me and my team luck!

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Reader Appreciation

Happy Wednesday, erbody and to my South African readers, I hope you voted today! It’s the one day where we have a say in what happens in our country!

Sometimes, when I write, I feel like no one is reading, relating or engaging with my content, but recently I’ve been receiving unsolicited appreciation for the content. I’m so grateful for the comments, likes and even those of you that read and appreciate what I have been doing silently. I see you and appreciate you too!

I’d like to take today to express my gratitude for being such avid readers of my blog! I’ve really appreciated the feedback I have been receiving recently.

So if I am talking about you, this👇 certificate belongs to you! Thank you for all the love and welcome to you if you are new!

Thank you for popping in! I have a couple of surprises coming this week so you will be seeing a lot of me! Have a beautiful week😘