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Happy Humpday Erbody!

The week has humped and it’s all downhill from here. I am so excited that in just a few days, I will be on holiday! It’s been a long term and a long year! I just wanna rest!

So anyway, today I had every intention of sharing about my favorite jam at the moment, but I’ll save that for later🙂

My favorite thing about where I teach is African diversity. I have the privilege of teaching kids from Angola to Congo. From Zimbabwe to Mozambique. It’s really amazing! So, being in such a diverse environment also means that I often know what is happening in those African countries, well, the jits of it anyway. I’ve taught children who have been put at the back of a truck and sent to an aunt in South Africa in an attempt to escape war-stricken homeland. I know kids that couldn’t come to school during the Xenophobic attacks that often take place here. What happens in Africa has never impacted me the way it has during my time at this school.

And this is why I am so proud of my friend and colleague, Viloshni, who is heading up our Interact club this year at school. Among the many projects that she oversees, she has also started to collect clothes with the club to send to Mozambique where Cyclone Idai has devastated the many parts of the country.

Sometimes we get so overwhelmed by what is happening in our neighbouring countries and even our next door neighbours that we do nothing because it seems like we have too little to offer to relieve some of the pain we see. We need to be greatful for what we have and giving to others is one way of showing that gratitude. We are fortunate enough to have just a little more than we need, we really do, and that little bit more that we have can go a long way to help those who have much less than we do!

And so I hope you are doing the same where you are. I hope you can see the needs of those in your vicinity and even beyond that and that you find that which you can offer in order to be a relief to them!

Thank you so much for visiting today! Have a beautiful week and we’ll chat again on Sunday, as always! 😘

Sidebar: sometimes I think no one really reads my blog, but yesterday, I was pleasantly surprised by Afrobloggers who were so kind as to review my blog! So many affirmations of what I am doing well, and also pointers for areas of improvement. Thank you so much for this, guys!

Please check out the post here and have a look at their site as well to find more amazing African bloggers!

am writing, Gym Life, Looking Forward To, my adventures, Ramblings, Soul Stuff

Parkrun: Bez Valley

Happy Sunday erbody!

I’m looking forward to this week. I’m staring down the barrel of the last week of the first term of the year! Teaching at a three-term school has its perks but we pay for it in other ways, i.e a much longer term than four terms schools! Aaaanyway! In 5 sleeps, I will switch off my alarm for 28 days straight!

So Parkrun has been going well! Yesterday was my 20th run and I can’t wait to hit 25 at the end of May! Every Saturday when I run, I see at least 5 runners with the Tshirt with 50 on the back and it’s very encouraging that I am edging closer to that t-shirt for myself every weekend that I show up!

Yesterday, the route was switched up a bit in the spirit of April fools, and we ran the race backwards this time! I love having a routine but switching things up from time to time makes things interesting in life!

I think it’s important to enjoy the little pleasures life throws at us. We dwell too much on the bad sometimes and miss out on the good!

So this week, I hope you take a moment every day to smell the roses, appreciate all those little things that take away the sting of the bad. All those little things add up and before you know it, you’re looking at a beautiful life again😉

Thank you so much for popping in today! Have beautiful week ahead! Enjoy it!😍

am writing, Love & War, Ramblings, Soul Stuff

3 Things Rejected People Don’t Want to Hear

Happy Humpday everyone!

If you are a human being, you’ve probably been rejected at some point in your life. And since we all click on the “I am not a robot” button, you know what I am talking about.

Rejection stings, no, it hurts and it’s very difficult to deal with. Though over time, we can look back on our experiences and laugh, during the process of recovery, the situation seems hopeless. The questions are endless and you are certain that there is no light at the end of the tunnel. This is me at the moment: I am in mourning and though I know the truth is I will get over this, it feels pretty bleak at the moment.

Of course, the bad comes with the good. None of us are completely unloved. None of us can say with any certainty that nobody sees any good in us. And so, my dear friends have huddled around me to remind me that I am worthy. I do find certain phrases rather unhelpful though. So here are the 3 things I think rejected people don’t need to hear while in the thick of the mourning

This wasn’t a great idea

This is not the best thing to say to a rejected person. Very few repeatedly rejected people want to hear how stupid what they did was. They don’t want to hear that they should have seen it coming. Believe me, part of the mourning period involves self-blame. We do the best we can to avoid as much damage to ourselves that we can, most of the time anyway. Hearing that you effed up yet again while that is the conversation you are already having with yourself does not help.

You deserve better

“But you’re so amazing!” they say, “who would reject all of this?!” Well, some of us have a track record of rejections, trust me! In most cases, people have a humble, positive opinion about themselves. Thinking that you deserve better eventually leads to the question of why better has perpetually not happened?! Enter, the overthinker and consequent sadness and the black abyss of endless hopelessness. It gets pretty depressing after that.

Maybe you should… In future

Ok, listen. If adulting has taught me anything, it is this: you can do it all right. You can make all the healthy decisions, keep your eyes peeled for all the signs and do everything to prepare and even avoid the storms, but they come anyway and render you shipwrecked anyway! Life can be cynical despite your defenses. That’s the bottom line sometimes.

So there you have it! While we know and acknowledge the well-intended love from those around us, sometimes, all a rejected person wants to hear is, ” Im sorry this happened to you.” Sometimes we just need you to sit with us, maybe cry with us and help is pick ourselves up again.

I know a day will come when, I will wake up in the morning and not feel any weight or the memory of my rejection, until then, it would be great not to hear any of these 3 things.

Thank you all for popping in today. The world is a tough, place. Be kind to one another, please. Have a good week everyone😘

Looking Forward To, Love & War, my adventures, Ramblings, Soul Stuff

Young At Heart

Hey Erbody!

I hope it has been a good weekend for you! I’ve been swamped with work lately which had me believing that I’m barely coping with my work life, but I realized that I just need to take a step back sometimes and realize that I’m competent and coping just fine!

So, after marking 55 scripts of a test, completing 14 of my 28 subject comments, cleaning and doing a bit of shopping, I realized that I could afford to go out and have a little fun yesterday!

It has occurred to me that I have a pattern when I go to social gatherings: I’m always with the kids either playing catch in the pool or jumping on the trampoline until my legs give in. Adulting can be so much that the last thing you want to do is talk about at social gatherings as well! Give me the kids. I don’t mind being focused on perfecting my throw or not jumping too high to get my mind off more serious matters for a little while!

I’ve been told several times that I don’t look as old as I actually am. People have always been shocked that I’m 34. I’m convinced that being around kids all day is keeping me young😊

I’m at the stage in my life where I don’t have kids of my own yet, but all my friends and family do. I’m at the stage where I can play with other people’s children and I can give them back when I’m over it or when they get crabby! I’m often the aunty that’s playing with the little people! I find kids’ idea of fun very simple so I’m always eager to join in!

I don’t hide my age; I don’t see the point. Even if I pretend I’m younger, it really doesn’t change my actual 34 years at all, so I gave up the denialism a long time ago!

I hope you are enjoying the season you are in right now its very important because you’ll miss it when it’s gone!

Thank you so much for popping in today! Have a beautiful week ahead😘

am writing, Soul Stuff

Lent: An Island of Sanity

Hello, Erbody! I hope you’re still going strong this week and crushing all your goals!

You know, when I chose more consistency and less quantity of posts, I found myself struggling to keep abreast with all the current trends one can write about. But I’ve always been a late bloomer so I take it all in my stride! What I get to is what is meant for me😊

So last week was Ash Wednesday, which marks the beginning of Lent. I teach at a Catholic school so I tend to be privy to the prominent days that the Catholic church observes. Now, I’m not Catholic and at first, I was reluctant to participate in everything because I find it disrespectful to do so when you don’t fully understand the doctrine behind the various practices. I have, however, chosen some practices and used them in my own Baptist understanding of God’s word.

I liked last week’s message for this year’s Lent. In a world so full of hatred and difficulties, we are called to be Islands of Sanity. Whether you believe in God or not and whether you are disgruntled by all that the human race has and continues to do in the name of God, I think if we chose to be good to ourselves and to each other, the world would be a better place.

So during this time of Lent, I hope you choose to be the Island of Sanity for those in your own world and even more importantly, for yourself!

Thank you so much for popping in! Have a fantastic week ahead😘