Anonymous: A Series

Hello Erbody! Happy New Year! You know all my hopes and dreams for you and me in this new year! If you don’t, do check it out here

So, in the spirit of everything fresh and new and because of how well the Reflections series went, I thought it fitting to start another series!

With the dawn of social media comes a great deal of personal exposure. While in some respects, this is a good thing, in other respects it robs you of your privacy and anonymity. Sometimes I wish I could shout certain things from the a virtual mountain top – but without anyone who knows me hearing it!

So here is Anonymous! One Friday a month, there’s going to be a suprise blog from one my blogger friends. If you’d also like to participate like to participate, please feel free to email me: noloyiso.l@gmail.com and I will drop the post at any time that month! (Don’t worry, I’ll be running this series all year so there is plenty of time!)

You’re allowed to talk about whatever you want that you’ve felt you couldn’t share before!

I hope you’ll take part in this! Thank you so much for coming by! See you on Sunday😘

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Reflections: On Being Each Other’s Angels

One of the posts from Noloyiso’s blog that stayed with me long after I read it was when she wrote of an incident: I Need A Hug

It’s weird how sometimes, we are so wrapped up in our own worlds and our own sorrows and it feels as if we are the only ones laboring through great difficulties but around us, are people with equal or even heavier burdens. You never know what a simple word or gesture can mean to someone else.

I believe in angels. They walk amongst us wearing a stranger’s face, sometimes even a more familiar face and we call them friends and family.

In the spirit of reflections, which this post is themed upon, when we look back on the year, may we focus on the good: the good we did, the good that happened and between that all the connections that made us keep moving forward.

Here’s to beginning the year onwards and upwards. Sometimes all we have is each other.

~B

A digital storyteller immortalizing himself the best way he knows how, by writing.

Blog: Becoming the Muse

Twitter: Beatonm5

Reflections

Hello everyone! I hope you’ve had a good week…

I’ve had a rough time recently… The bible says in every thing, be greatful. This doesn’t mean everything is good all the time, but that there is something good to be greatful for all the time. So I’m trying to take it all one day at a time. I got a good night’s sleep last night for the first time in a while and today finally feels like I’m on a clean slate!

Anyway! Enough about all that negativity! I promised you an announcement today and I always deliver!

Every Wednesday of December I will be featuring one of 4 of my friends on my blog! That’s right: I am doing a series next month! I’ve had the privellege of being a part of quite a few like this one in the past and because the end of the year calls for reflection on the year and plans for the future, I found this theme quite fitting.

I really hope you will enjoy it! I’ve already received the first post from that colleague I meantioned that has read all my blogs? Yes, him! I must confess, his post was very humbling. Never take your experiences for granted because someome out there is watching you and is encouraged by how you carry yourself! I’ve already said too much! Let me sign off🙈

Thank you for popping in! It’s always great to have you😘 Have a beautiful week!

I Kill Giants

Hey Everyone! It’s the beginning of yet another week! I hope you’re well!

This past week has been difficult. A good friend of mine suffered a loss this week that saddened us all. Life is fragile and shorter than we would like it to be…

All things that live in this world die. This is why you must find joy in living while the time is yours and not fear the end. To deny this is to deny life – but to embrace it. Can you embrace it? You are stronger than you think…

So there’s this film I watched last night called I Kill Giants. Babara, an 11 year old imaginative girl sees herself as the protector of her little town from giants. She is the only one who sees them and the only one equipped to fight them. It took a while for me to see that these were not in fact real giants, ( although my inner child hoped they were!) but really, a metaphor for the challenges we face in our lives.

We are all familiar with hardships. Besides my friend’s loss, my week was filled with many tears and anxiety and self-doubt. It happens from time to time. Life is not always smooth sailing. I’m often faced with my own giants and I get scared. I go into victim mode and shake my fist at the world for the injustices I experience. Of course, this is not the healthiest way to cope and so far, I don’t quite know how to get through those difficult times. Everything in my life that normally makes me happy is useless at dragging me out of that dark place. Maybe I need to change my outlook about that – I don’t know for sure. What I do know for sure is that the storms always pass – always.

There are times where you have to ask yourself. Do I want to live my life as a coward or a warrior. Decide.

I hope that, no matter what giant you face in your life right now, you know that you are stronger than you think. I hope you hold you head up and find the warrior in you. You can do this. You are doing this.

Thank you so much for dropping by! I have some very exciting news to share on Wednesday so please come again! Have a beautiful week 😘

Again, I Say, Gratitude!

Hi Everyone!

You’re so quiet lately! I hope I’m not boring you! What’s everyone up to lately? Please share!

The end of year festivities are trickling in for me. Saying goodbye to colleagues who are moving on to greener pastures. Secret Santa is coming up and I’m looking forward to a few weeks of rest, reflection and planning for the year ahead.

I think what I enjoy the most about this time of year are the words of appreciation that are passed around too. 365 days are a lot to get through. A year is filled with all kinds of accomplishments and hardships and I think it’s important to thank all the people that were in your corner through all those ups and downs.

So again, I say! Be grateful! Every chance you get, tell the people close to you how much they mean to you!

Thank you so much for being here. Your absence is sorely missed when you are not around! Have a beautiful week! We’ll catch up on Sunday😘

Falling Upward

I’m Back! Did you miss me, mmmmh?! Well, I know one person who has. My colleague who is not a blogger at all has been eagerly awaiting my next post! He says he has read every single one of my posts! All of them, guys! I’m super flattered and encouraged to keep writing! Thank you, dear colleague😊

So you have the dream ( insert all the things you want to accomplish at the end of your life). You have arrived! You are a success! So… like… what happens next?! I’ve often pondered this. Maybe our desire for things is what keeps us striving for more in this life. Once we are satisfied with what we have, we have nothing else to live for, right?! Boy, was I wrong!

Father Richard Rohr talks about having 2 halves of life. They are not chronological and one only comes when you consciously go there.

The First Half – The Container

We all have different things we want to accomplish in life: the job, the house, the car, the spouse and the children. I don’t know who taught us this but we somehow believe that once we have these things, we are finished with life; we have arrived. But all these things, this stuff, is just the container. It is also the way we choose to define who we are: our religion, sexual orientation, our culture. All these things are arguably superficial and it doesn’t mean that the journey of life is over once we have them all. There is more.

The Second half – The Content

This part of life comes when we begin to question why. What is the point of all the things we have and who we are in life? There is what Father Richard refers to as Necessary Suffering. These are the difficult relationships, the hurts, the diffulties and the losses we experience in life. None of these things are avoidable. Yes, they are necessary and through them, we gain maturity. We learn, the hard way, that everything is going to work out, we learn that we are strong and that the good always outweighs the bad. Without necessary suffering, we remain in the meaningless rut that is the container.

In order to reach the second half of life, we need to let the container fall apart and maturity is learning to discern between what is real and what is unreal; what is necessary and what is unnecessary; what lasts and what is fleeting.

I’ve only really just scraped the surface of this way of thinking and I still have much to learn. The question that lingers in me is this: Which half of my life am I living in?

It’s a mouthful I know! Check out the video on Father Richard’s book Falling Upwards. I provided the link earlier. Have an amazing week everyone! Thank you for stopping by🙂

Nostalgia

Happy Sunday everybody!

It was a scorcher of a day on my side of the world! I hope you’ve a had a great weekend and looking forward to an even better week🙂

I spent my week up to my ears in marking – the joys of being a teacher! Something I’ve always enjoyed about English language papers, even as a high school student myself, was how thought provoking the texts always are and as I marked and read some of the answers the students gave, I was given much to think about.

This particular text was about nostalgia and how human beings have the habit of holding on to a belief that life was simpler and better in the past. We’ve all been there. We go back to our home towns and see how everything has changed. We see how young people behave and wonder what barn they were raised in that made them so disrespectful and if you are South African, you look back to when the petrol price was lower and you could afford more things than you can now! We all look back and wish we could go back!

Alas, we can’t go back to the good ole days. They were simpler and sometimes better, but you know what? Right now is simpler and in some respects, better too. We have to learn to take the bad with the good and know that in all situations, there is some good too.

Thank you for dropping by! May you have an awesome week! See you on Wednesday😘