The choice not to procreate is rarely discussed. Maybe it is because most people are so sure that they want children. For most, procreating is a natural part of life and it wouldn’t make sense not to want kids.
I have a similar view on motherhood and have chosen not to have children for now. Much like Noloyiso’s views on Baby Mama, I am open to having children but also realise that this may not be the natural path for my life.
My personal view is that one should plan accordingly before making the decision to have kids. This begins with the person you procreate with down to having the resources to raise a child. Ask any parent and none of them will tell you that parenthood is easy. It is easily the most difficult yet rewarding thing that you will probably do in your life.
People and society need to remember that we are all allowed the choice of motherhood but, also, not to choose it. I’m sure all the “when are you having a baby questions” are coming from a good place however, people need to learn to exercise caution with these questions. They also need to refrain from asking these questions when they are not close to that man or woman.
Personally, I will always like to look back on this post when I reflect on my decision not to have kids in my 20s. Per the article, I am broody but reserve my right to have children only when I am ready to do so.
In 2020, may all women make decisions that are right for them!