Activities, am writing, Interests, Lifestyle, my adventures

Momo & O

Last night, to help celebrate our friend’s birthday, we tried Asian food at Momo and O on Grant Avenue in Norwood. Here’s what we thought of our experience.

The Drink

If you don’t want to end up going from restaurant to restaurant hoping someone will sell you a bottle of wine because the liquor store is already closed, then you better keep this in mind before heading to Momo and Co: They don’t sell alcohol. They do, however, allow you to bring your own poison and they don’t charge corkage so come prepared!

The Food

As it seems to be the practise with Asian food, Momo’s and Co is very affordable. You can order from the wide range of delicious Tappas or their large helpings of noodles, broth and dumpling dishes. The presentation is also so pretty! We spent a few minutes amireing the Artist presentation before actually eating!

The atmosphere

If you like trying out new food then this is the place for you! In true Asian style, you can order an number of tappas and eat together communal style. This gives you more of a sense of all the food and not just want you order! I was really a relaxed vibe, a space where you can lose track of the time while enjoying good food and good company.Debs, thank you for sharing your special day with you! I hope your birthday weekend was beautiful and file with all the love you deserve! I love you!

And the last cool thing about his spot? Has to be this strange room that leads to the bathrooms. The lighting, the mirrors and the expose facebrick walls all make for an amazing spot for a photo shoot! We. And a bit of fun in there!

Thank you so much for popping in today! It’s always a pleasure to have you here! Have a beautiful week😘

Activities, Interests, Lifestyle, Teacher Problems

Dem Boys

Happy Wednesday erbody! I’m sorry I left you in the lurch over the past week. It would be an excuse to say I’ve been too busy because I do believe that you make time for that which you love and hold in high esteem and you are both of those things to me!

You may know this already, but I started a new job this year. While it has been a huge adjustment, I have decided to take every new challenge in this new environment as it comes and not to allow myself to get overwhelmed. But It has been difficult to put into words what I have been experiencing; I will do my best today, though.

As of 2020, I am an English teacher at a boys’ school. Yes, the only girls I see during work hours are my female colleagues. I can’t tell you what I was expecting this would be like, but here are 3 differences I have found so far:

Boys will be boys

I’ve heard it said before that boys never grow up; their toys just get more expensive, but these words have never rung truer than they do for me right now. Whether a boy is in 8th grade or 12th grade, he is the same: a goofy, giggly, talkative bundle of energy that you must force to bounce on a yoga ball so that he can stay focused during class! Everything is funny in an all-boys classroom! There is no restraint because of girls they’re trying to impress ( No, I don’t count as a girl they’re trying to impress!). The all-boys classroom is rowdy and if you don’t have them busy writing and giving you feedback from the word go, then you will end up frustrated at the seemingly chaotic environment. I’m still figuring it out but so far, it has helped to start the lesson off by having them take down notes. The minute the chattering starts, I skip to the next slide. It seems that I need to metaphorically grab them by the face and point them to that lesson’s outcome.

What work ethic?

My friend, who is also a teacher at a boys’ school warned me of this one. If dem boys had things their way, every single period would be a free period! The grade 9s ask me every day! I’ve learned to laugh it off while they shrug as though to say, “well, I tried”. If dem boys can push a deadline for an assignment, they will- on the day it is assigned! There is no eagerness to work and no panic about covering the work in the future. Dem boys live in the moment and in the moment, chilling is the order of the day!

Get over it

This is my favourite difference about teaching in an all-boys school. They don’t take you or your reprimands personally. Sure, dem boys push boundaries. They may suggest that you are being unfair, but most of the time, their intension is to get out of working or trouble with you. If you call their bluff, they smile sheepishly and let it go because they know that they were merely taking a chance. I’ve lost it once or twice with them, but they have been quick to apologise. Dem boys don’t hold grudges. I don’t get side-eyed two days later and I don’t worry as much about being liked because, ultimately, whether they like me or not, they keep things moving. I like that.

I don’t understand everything about working with dem boys yet. It’s going to take me this whole year to at least settle in, but this is what I wanted: a new challenge, new ways to hone my craft, to test and validate my ability and I’m in for a quite an adventure!

am writing, Interests

5 Things I Do When I’m Bored

Am I the only one who sits at home with the entire day ahead of me and realise that I am bored out of my mind? What do you normally do when you feel unproductive and unmotivated to do anything about it? Well, because Google has the answer to everything, I found these helpful tips for what one can do when one is bored. The site offers 96 activities but I cut them down to ones that apply to my life. Today I’m going to share just 5 things I do when I am bored.

Clear Your Inbox

I am not the kind of person who leaves any messages unread on any platform. It drives me insane! Maybe I am a communication fanatic; I’d rather lash out on a person than blue tick them or ignore them. I’m learning that this is not always a good way to deal with situations, though, but I digress. When I am bored, I visit my emails and I open them. Most of the emails I receive are blog alerts, online shopping advertisements and devotional readings. Sometimes I spend boredom time unsubscribing to sites I don’t find necessary anymore and opening and reading the rest. I find it so satisfying when my gmail says, “whoohoo! you’ve read all your messages!” It’s also the perfect time to clear your gallery. I bet you have thousands of photos on your phone, hundreds of which are unnecessary for some reason. We do take 10 selfies and only post one, after all.

Self-care

Empty time is the perfect time to take care of yourself. Paint your nails, put on a face mask, take a nice long candlelit bath with bath oils, try a new hairstyle or simply take a nap. Sometimes we get so busy with all our responsibilities that we forget these simple pleasures.

Scribble

I find lists very soothing. They make me feel like I’m on top of things and when you are adulting, you need all the help you can get! I’m a sucker for lists, so I sometimes do my shopping list or make a to do list for the following day at work. I also take boredom time to plan, and sometimes write a few blog posts ahead of the time.

Learn a New Language

I recently started learning Portuguese. I downloaded the app and every day, I get a 5 minute lesson where I read, speak and write it. Whatever I learn that day, I use to start a conversation with the people I know who are Portuguese speaking. It’s been a great deal of fun!

Chores

This may sound like a no brainer, but it needs to be included! Boredom time is the perfect time to do some cleaning: do the dishes, laundry, sometimes I even rearrange a shelf. These activities are therapeutic for me. They do say that cleaning and sorting out your physical house helps you feel like your metaphorical house is under control. It’s a good coping mechanism for depression.

Don’t get it twisted. Sometimes I throw my list out the window and veg in front of the tv watching Greys Anatomy season 6 for the thousandth time while my bed is unmade and my inbox is filling up and I know I am wasting all that precious time. It happens sometimes! Allow yourself those moments, but have more productive days than unproductive.

Well, I hope that was helpful! These 5 a bare scraping the top of the iceberg! I didn’t even mention watching TV ( something I haven’t already seen) and reading so there are plenty more things to do when one is bored. Tell me what you do when you are bored, I’d love to hear from you! Thank you so much for popping in! It’s always a pleasure to have you here! Have an awesome week😘

Activities, Interests, Lifestyle, Series

Reflections: Integrity

A birthday is usually the most important day in one’s life. The 6-week journey and build up to Noloyiso’s Birthday was such an enjoyable and interesting read.

Life is meant to be celebrated and every day is a journey. On 8 June 2019, my friend celebrated her 34th birthday and her blog post on this auspicious day sparked my interest. This year, Noloyiso has developed so much. She has become a young lady who realised that “adulting ” is a tough job!

“Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same things!” This line is something that I try to live by all the time. The word is INTEGRITY.

I believe that this is a characteristic that sticks with one ’till the end of time! It is the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles. In this day and age, integrity is the most difficult quality to maintain.

The society we live in questions and tests our integrity all the time. We are faced with moral dilemmas every day. In South Africa, even our leaders don’t help in showing us that uprighteous living is so important. Our children think it is ok to cheat, to bribe or bully other learners for homework, money, etc. I am a teacher and my integrity is always in limbo. However, it is something I have to stick to all the time, no matter how difficult.

Sometimes I almost feel hypocritical. What I say at school is so different than what happens at home. I sometimes insist and give good advice to learners at school. I ask them to behave appropriately, have 8 hrs of sleep, complete homework on Friday and eat nutritious meals. My biological children don’t listen to these instructions. Homework is done on a Sunday night, 2 hrs of sleep on a Friday and Saturday is sufficient because of Fortnite or YouTube or movies. Pizza and burgers are meals that go down well too. My integrity, even though so small in these instances, is called into question.

However, I have realised in all of this that as long as moral principles are maintained in being good and doing good, then that is all that matters. Living your best life definitely means that doing what is right will be remembered to the end of time.

Viloshini is a Johannesburg based Drama teacher who loves reading, listening to music and living every day with positivity and laughter.

Activities, Interests, Lifestyle

Ke Dezember Boss!

It’s a new month! It’s World Aids Day and if you are South African, Ke Dezember Boss! The month of Saturdays and Sundays!

I’m still chewing on some life experience right now so I don’t have much to share today. But Sunday wouldn’t be Sunday if I didn’t say hello at the very least so…

I also found this amazing guitarist on Twitter and had to share her with you because Black Girl Magic! I’ve been camped out here for the latter part of this afternoon! Enjoy and have a beautiful week😘

Interests, Lifestyle, Series, Soul Stuff

Anonymous: A Different Lens on Toxic Friendships

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I know people are probably tired of hearing about how some friendships can be toxic but really, toxic friendships are a thing but so are the enablers…

For years I have been stifled by the toxicity of most of my friendships; I’ve had the friends who demand gifts but don’t even remember your special days, the ones who are always in need but never reach out to help you when the signs are crystal clear that you could do with a friend, the ones who elevate their importance in your life and you have to maintain that level of importance and my favorite; the ones who plan everything around you being there for them but never show up for you…

I have also been strangled by the painful realisation that I am an enabler, a bitter pill to swallow but very necessary. One day, I painfully realised that I either attract toxic friendships or I breed them and with me being the only constant in all these situations, it only made sense that I was the breeder.

I have very poor boundaries, very high expectations of myself in friendships and often don’t take the time to stop and address issues in my friendships that upset me. This is mainly because I’ve set such a high precedent that when I do address them, people cannot relate because I’ve shown up in a particular way for the longest time!

I have allowed my friends to use me in efforts to prove my loyalty to them but not once have I expected the same of them. Actually, I have always assumed they’d do the same and each time they didn’t, bitterness and resentment grew turning me into someone toxic to them which makes me wonder: were they even toxic to begin with?

Activities, Interests, Lifestyle

3 Things I Learned as a Parkrun Marshall

Yesterday was my 41st Parkrun! Yes, 9 more Saturdays and I hit 50 and get that coveted Tshirt! Saturday was also my first day as a Parkrun marshall. What do marshalls do? Well, we basically help to set up before the run and we are posted at different posts on the route to cheer everyone on as they run past. I learned some valuable lessons on my rookie stint and I thought I would share them with you.

The fastest runners are focused

I’ve never been able to see the fastest runners because I’m always somewhere in the middle so it was interesting to see them on this day. It was quite interesting to see how I unbothered the winners were about the people behind them, whether they were going in the right direction and they were not even interested to acknowledge me as they flew past! Their goal was one: to finish at the best time possible. Read into that as metaphorically as you would like.

It’s not about you

When I do parkrun, my goals have varied over the past year, from finishing the run in one piece to beating my previous personal best, but as a marshall, the goal has nothing to do with me. As much as there are marathon runners in the crowd, there are also those who are running for the first time and others who are just walking it. All these people appreciate encouragement, someone who’s on their side and wants to see them do well, and I took it upon myself to be this person at my post.

Change your mindset

I knew that yesterday was not about the run and more about lending a helping hand, and I was able to run the rest of the route after everyone had passed my post, but man, it was hard to get into running mode after standing around for a while! This is going to take some getting used to and a change of mindset going forward.

Well, there you have it! I’m looking forward to doing more marshalling in the future! This is another opportunity to meet new people and be part of a community of like minded people. If you are a parkrunner, and you have done 25 or more runs, get yourself on the list of volunteers!

Thank you so much for popping in! It’s always such a pleasure to have you here. Have a beautiful week😘